I see opinions about Madeleine McCann are surfacing in the media again; this time certain shlebs are blaming the parents of Madeleine for her disappearance. But here's the thing:
No one knows what actually happened to Maddie except the person or persons that took her.
Logically, if you believe Mr and Mrs McCann's story that they left Maddie in the hotel room, then you cannot also blame them for the abduction - someone else took Maddie, and that is the person to blame. You can blame the parents for allowing a situation to occur that made abduction easier to achieve, but that is NOT the same as blaming the parents for the abduction, and it leads to all kinds of further considerations, as I will explain.
On the other hand, if you do blame Mr and Mrs McCann for the abduction, this means two things. Firstly, you don't believe their story that they left Maddie in the hotel room - in which case you can't logically use that story to blame them for anything. Secondly, if you don't have any evidence that Mr and Mrs McCann are to blame for the actual abduction, but you insist on saying they are to blame for it, then you are some kind of idiot.
Let me explain further with an example. Let’s imagine that a person unknown had been secretly watching Maddie, and planning her abduction for a while. And let’s also imagine that Mr and Mrs McCann hadn't left Maddie on her own that night. And now let’s imagine the person unknown waited for the whole family to go to sleep, then broke in and silently abducted Maddie. If that had actually happened, then all the people currently reviling the McCanns would now be sympathising with them. But in both instances - our imaginary story, and the McCann’s version that people are using to blame them - it was a person unknown who actually carried out the abduction. You can blame people for making a mistake, if that is the kind of person you want to be, but you cannot logically blame those people for some other evil person choosing to exploit that mistake.
I have absolutely no idea whether the McCanns are telling the truth about what happened. But I do know it is illogical to believe their story and then blame them for the abduction. It IS logical to believe their story and blame them for allowing a tragic opportunity, but even that opens up another problem, which is this: How many supposedly good parents around the world make errors in the care of their children, but through pure luck those errors do not lead to tragedy? In these cases, the world doesn't sit in contemptuous judgement, does it? And indeed, the people who make those mistakes that they luckily get away with don’t sit in judgement of themselves. And yet many of them will be the same people pointing the finger at the McCanns.
If you think you're a perfect parent, who has never made a mistake that put your child at risk, I suspect you are mistaken. I've seen a lot of life, and a lot of examples of parenting:
I know of parents who get drunk most nights and fall asleep in the house where their children also live, without carrying out basic safety checks such as making sure doors are locked, hobs are turned off, and electrical devices unplugged.
Every day, I watch people driving their cars while staring down at their smartphones. Sometimes, they have kids in the car with them; sometimes they're just driving past kids walking to school. It's carnage and murder waiting to happen.
I see parents walking through crowded shopping malls, with absolutely no attention given to their children, who could be easily lost or snatched away.
I see families on holiday, with parents falling asleep on sun loungers, oblivious to what their children are doing and where they might be going.
I have seen parents publicly beat their children, and seen the look of despair on childrens faces; the kind of long-term despair that says these kids are likely to grow up depressed, anxious, maybe suicidal.
I know of parents who spend long, long hours at work, and simply don't have a clue what their children are getting up to, both online and in the real world.
I know of parents who smoke around their kids, and who allow young children to drink alcohol.
I know of parents who have allowed under-age kids to engage in sexual behaviour, and just turned a blind eye instead of intervening, even if only with sexual health advice.
I also know of a lot of hard-working, conscientious parents who genuinely love and support their kids, who sometimes just get tired, and take their eye off the ball.
As for the McCanns, who knows? Some people have accused the McCann's of foul play. I don't know if that's true, but I would demand to see evidence before I believed it.
I am not defending the McCanns here: I am simply putting pointing out the lack of logic, and the sheer hypocrisy, of the people pointing the finger at them. If you have evidence that the McCanns are responsible for the disappearance of their daughter, send it to the police. Otherwise, stop making the accusation.
Alternatively, if you believe the McCanns version of events; that they left Maddie in a hotel room while they socialised, then you cannot logically blame them for the abduction. You CAN blame them for an incident of neglect of care, but before you start shouting off on social media about it, just ask yourself whether you're a perfect parent, and whether you've managed to avoid tragedy only through pure luck. Or indeed whether you're just storing up tragedy for the future.
"Sincerity makes the very least person to be of more value than the most talented hypocrite." ~Charles Spurgeon
Think it through, people.
Words © Darren R. Scothern 2016